“His Advice for Her; Her Advice for Him”


A new and different take on Online Dating advice from author’s Laura-Jane Wareing and Lindsay A Gordon.

10 years in the making, we show you that online dating is the new normal and teach you to take full advantage of a better way to date.

The authors met via online dating (see pic above) and sparks did not fly. Instead, they became friends and co-authors. Over the 10 years while they have been compiling “His Advice for Her, Her Advice for Him” Laura-Jane has gone on to meet the love of her life, online, and start a family. She is the success story! Meanwhile, Lindsay just writes books. Sad.

About the authors:

Lindsay A Gordon: https://lindsaygordonauthor.wordpress.com/about/

Laura-Jane Wareing:


Laura-Jane Wareing (LJ) is an English mum of two young children living in the leafy suburbs of West London. She sits on the board of governors for Chelsea and Westminster hospital and helps run a group called “Maternity Voices” intent on improving a mother’s experience in hospital. She is also director of a business training and coaching company helping to improve executive skills in leadership.

With a background in criminal law LJ felt her skills would be more helpful to the needy and started her career with Age Concern, she then became a healthcare consultant working in communications, crisis management and improving efficiencies in the NHS. Throughout she has had a love of writing and this has involved editing, production of in-house articles and articles for British broadsheets in the healthcare arena. She also was the writer and director of her own local radio show in Pimlico London.

LJ is also a keen traveller and has lived and worked in Florence, Rome and Bologna and travelled extensively through India and the Far East. She has also had the pleasure of being associate producer on an award winning short film at Cannes.

When LJ is not governing, directing or writing she loves to work on creative art and baking with her 4 year old daughter and 11 month old son.

– Laura-Jane Wareing (November 2017, Paris)

Watch this space for more information about our book, “His Advice for Her; Her Advice from Him”, written by Lindsay A Gordon and Laura-Jane Wareing. Coming soon!

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Tribute to the life and times of Patricia Laplante-Collins 1957-2019

The Gertrude Stein of our times; Patricia Laplante-Collins made her life’s work the hosting of literary salons and soirées in Paris, France. Patricia sadly passed away on January 22, 2019.

Patricia photographed in a barber shop with friend Iyan.
Patricia Laplante-Collins with close friend and artist, Iyan MacKenzie in Paris (3 Dec 2017).

[Featured Image above: Patricia Laplante-Collins at her favorite spot, Cafe Les Editeurs, photographed with long-time friend Robin Bates, Founder and Executive Director of Maison Noire Américaine.]

Patricia Laplante-Collins made her life’s work the hosting of literary salons and soirées, in various forms over the decades, in Paris, France. There are marriages, friendships and connections that exist solely because of her generous efforts. She hosted these events for the love of people and their stories and would feature a worthy personality to talk at each event. She was authentic, intelligent, well educated, curious and caring.

Patricia sadly passed away on January 22, 2019 of a brain haemorrhage (she did not suffer). In the last four years of her life, when I knew her, she faced several health issues gallantly.


Patricia photographed inside restaurant with Jacqui.
Patricia Laplante-Collins hosting one of her later Soirées that included dinner, photographed with her speaker that night, Jacqui Harwood Garcin.

Her soirée was my very first event moving into Paris. Many will remember this American as the modern day Gertrude Stein hosting her popular Expat Soirées (and other forms of events) to bring thousands of expatriates and Parisians together over decades. If you were fortunate to know Patricia Laplante-Collins then you know how much she enjoyed people and loved her adopted home France, and Paris especially.

Patricia photographed with friends in the Marais, Paris 2017
Patricia March 2017 with David Burke (author & filmmaker, formerly at 60 Minutes) and Buck Branson (entrepreneur from Dallas) over drinks in the sunshine at Café Charlot in the Paris, upper Marais, Paris.

The service on Thursday, 14 March 2019, to farewell Patricia Laplante-Collins, was well done and well attended. We heard many stories from friends of Patricia. Tommie McKenzie and a band played music with singers, including those joining in from the mourners. The Père-Lachaise staff were impeccable. It was a full house with plenty of love and attention. The focus was on her positive impact and her touching of many, many lives. Her old dog Eve was mentioned lovingly and featured on her memorial card (lovingly created as a gift to attendees). Many flowers were delivered.

Patricia photographed with one of her speakers, an author.
Patricia Laplante-Collins with Shari Leslie Segall (one of Patricia’s speakers for her soirées) who is the author of “90 Ways to Tell You’re Becoming French”.

The city of Paris has decided the urn of Patricia Laplante-Collins will rest forever in a niche at the Crematorium Père-Lachaise.

There was an additional ceremony for the inurnment of the ashes of Patricia Laplante-Collins in a niche at Crématorium Père-Lachaise in the second half of 2019. Her immortal Paris address: niche 17552 Galerie K level -2 division 87.


  • Monique Y. Wells of Entrée to Black Paris:
  • Ellen A. Wright
  • Marlene Szczesny (http://cosmikdust.com) – “Patricia was a connector, she knew how to bring people together. She always took the time to learn something about each person that was there at one of her Sunday soirées and shared that with the group. That opened up the conversation between people.”
  • Nancy Ing Duclos (for her many professional efforts on behalf of the concerned friends of Patricia) & Grace Wong
  • Cara Cruickshank – “That is truly the end of an era.”
  • Kevin Knight (http://paris.expatriatesmagazine.com)
  • Iyan MacKenzie – “We’ll always have Paris.”
Patricia photographed indoors with Iyan.
Patricia in Christmas 2017 with Aussie friend and artist Iyan MacKenzie.
  • Tommie Mckenzie (musician frequently playing at Patricia’s events)
  • Moe Seager – “Undisputed doyenne and hostess of Expat Soirees. We held a memorial service in her honor today at Cimetière du Père Lachaise attended by a large coterie of friends and admirers. I wrote and read my pôem for Patricia. I knew Patricia since 1997. She convened book discussions, my jazz poetry appearances, and a roster of hundreds of speakers over a 20 year period. You will be dearly missed. Thank you for all you are, all you gave. RIP sister” (What Patricia said about Moe’s last performance as speaker for one of her soirées – see picture below: “Thank you Lindsay. And Moe is fabulous.”)
Patricia with Moe a speaker at one of her events.
Patricia Laplante-Collins with her guest speaker in Nov 2017, Moe Seager. A poet and jazz singer with a book of his poems, “Moe Poems”.
  • Connie-Lee Bennett (https://www.connieleebennett.com)
  • Jacqui Harwood Garcin
  • Wani Manly (http://www.wanimanly.com) – “A woman, who was iconic in the Paris ex-pat community hosting her famous Patricia’s Soirees every Sunday for almost a quarter of a century.
    My first ever live speaking engagement took place at one of her soirées soon after my first book was published.
    At her soirées, she had this natural gift of attracting and drawing in the most extraordinary people at her soirées, and like most, I was impressed with her impeccability in introducing every single guest.
    She knew everyone’s incredible story.
    Patrica, thank you for your service to the expat community and for all the vibrant connections made at your soirées.
    May your soul, Rest In Peace.”
  • and the many, many other friends and admirers of Patricia Laplante-Collins…
Patricia photographed at another event with friend.
Patricia Laplante-Collins supporting an InsideOut event with Patricia de Togliano.

Deepest thanks to Elizabeth Rimington and Jim Ounsworth for taking extraordinary steps to ensure that Patricia Laplante-Collins will rest in peace and be remembered for her generosity and spirited personality.


An interview with Patricia from 2017 featuring her own words: https://www.mmlunlimited.com/blogs/2017/9/5/patricia-laplante-collins-the-furthermuckin-expat-q

Read this lovely tribute to Patricia from Entrée to Black Paris: https://www.entreetoblackparis.com/blog/celebrating-patricia-laplante-collins

Download this book on Amazon that profiles Patricia Laplante-Collins:

Facebook was one way Patricia communicated with her network (an email newsletter was another) and on Facebook there are many odes to the memory of Patricia (some are quoted in the above blog).

In Patricia’s own words, what her soirée was about:

Paris Soirées are fun and enlightening Sunday evenings where thousands of people have successfully met and networked with thousands of others who have seriously enhanced their lives. Because of Paris Soirées, people from all nationalities and walks of life have found new jobs and careers, made new friends and…lovers. Newcomers to Paris find Patricia’s evenings indispensable for grounding themselves in a new culture and finding a real purpose. Don’t miss the next opportunity to be there and be one of them!

Patricia’s soirée website: http://patriciasparissoirees.com/

A screenshot for Patricia's website describing herself with a picture
About Patricia Laplante-Collins from her website

Patricia’s old soirée blog: http://parissoiree.blogspot.com

The Facebook page for the soirées: http://www.facebook.com/parissoirees

Patricia on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/patricia.laplantecollins

Get to know my friend, Patricia Laplante-Collins, a little more, as I understood her:

Selfie of Patricia
Patricia sending a fun selfie to her friends

Patricia was a humanitarian. She felt the limit of right-wing or conservative politics should be where the end result of their policies had a cruel or inhumane effect on one or more people. In other words, the ends don’t justify the means. She was by no means naive about politics but that was a guiding principle she expressed to me. On a small politics level she was wary of gossip (we discussed the nature and purpose of gossip at length) and two faced people. If Patricia felt you were authentic, like her, then she would share and trust easily. Patricia would take time to contact me on a regular basis, and her other friends, to check in on us. We had several very deep conversations that demonstrated her intelligence and thoughtfulness. We met together with her other friends around Paris a few times a year. I considered myself a “regular” friend of Patricia’s and she had many closer friends than I, who paid a great tribute to her at the funeral. I was touched and learned more about the Patricia from before my time. Patricia had a fun side and at her best was enjoying life and had a positive attitude underneath. Patricia was sometimes lonely and sad. She was most assuredly romantic, adoring those old films, like Casablanca, and the stars of that era and how they conducted themselves. When she was reminded of something splendid like this she would send out a note encouraging others to enjoy it, as well. She was often assertive especially about being independent. She would prefer she ask you for help than for you to offer it (especially were it out of even a small amount of pity). She was proud of what she had achieved in her life and of her abilities. Patricia was more sensitive, underneath, than her tough exterior implied. I helped her arrange one of her events and experienced every step of her process – I was impressed. Organising her events was not always easy, or without stress, and she was great at managing people and ego. Patricia had had a stroke before I met her which had some mild effects on her including during hosting, which her friends understood; it was part of the Patricia in this stage of her life. I can only imagine how much more exceptional she was at the height of her health and events.

Patricia sat with crowd listening to band play
Patricia listening to Tommie play with her guests 22 Oct 2017

She enjoyed spending time with friends, and watching her guests interact at her events, and then would need alone time to recharge outside of this socialising. She was devoted to her dog, Eve. Good people are often kind to animals by instinct, I find.

Goodbye, Patricia, thank you for being kind to me and so many others – LAG.

Paris Paradox – Lindsay’s debut article for the Tribune

This project was a delightful collaboration that, as often happens when one mixes faithfully with fellow artists, opened many other doors.

You can view the article about the photos of the homeless in Paris (by Lindsay A Gordon – LAG) that were shared with Jude Cowan Montague (JCM) who created . . . well, read the article below to find out what a wonderful pantheon she created:


Below you can see what I “tweeted” out in order to spread this well written but free article that is without advertisements and that sits all in one page with no paywall that also happens to respect your privacy (becoming a rare thing on the internet!)

If you liked reading the article you can “donate” simply by sharing the article or the artist who is the focus of the article: Jude Cowan Montague #artistsuppotingartists

LAG (January 2019)

Outback in Paris – Girl under the tree

Outback in Paris – excerpt: “The girl under the tree”
– by Lindsay A Gordon.

One night, I was hanging out in a quiet square, with the Fall of Paris promising Winter, being the voice of reason to an alcoholic poet a week past any sobriety. He sleeps in this square, sharing it with a stranger who sleeps near the other bench, but she had left us to talk alone. Together. The poet and me. But alone. I was his internal self made external. The part that wanted health and happiness. The part that knows how to get well. A slice of his conscience.

The square . . .

A mild lady timidly approached and asked meekly, “do you know if the girl is still sleeping here?”

“Yes, she still sleeps here under these stars”, we said.

“Then I will just leave this here”, depositing a neat paper bag near a well-worn mattress leaning against a park bench to dry.

“Who shall I say was calling?”

“Oh, she doesn’t know me. It’s just some rice and things for the girl under the tree.”

She shrunk humbly away, under a light shower of our compliments, and evaporated into a black and ever-colder Paris night.

Sleep well, fellow citizens and denizens, in your comfortable beds. Bon appétit to the girl under the tree. Dream on my mild, meek, timid lady and so keep our nightmares at bay.

– LAG (November 2017, Paris)